Confidence and Personal Power Ritual

To reclaim authority you have been handing over to keep the peace.

Before something you are dreading: a meeting, a conversation, a performance.

MoonMagicx Lunar Method™ phase: First Quarter.

• An orange or gold candle

• Tiger's Eye, Sunstone or Carnelian

• Ginger or bay laurel

• A mirror

Stand up. Feet flat. Shoulders down. Do this standing, not sitting — the body leads this one.

Candle and crystal at chest height in front of a mirror. Herb in your palm.

Light the candle. Look at yourself and say your own name out loud, once.

1. Crush the herb lightly between your fingers and breathe it in.

2. Say the thing you are dreading out loud in one plain sentence.

3. Say what you want out of it, in one plain sentence.

4. Hold the crystal against your solar plexus and say the words below three times, louder each time.

5. Stand for one full minute without shrinking your posture.

6. Take the crystal with you to the actual event.

'I take up the space that is mine.

I do not shrink to keep other people comfortable.

My voice belongs in the room.'

Snuff the candle. Say: 'Mine.'

Afterwards, write what actually happened versus what you feared. Repeat before each hard thing.

Power is held, not performed. Notice whether you got louder or steadier — steadier is the goal.

• Where do I give my authority away?

• What am I afraid of being seen as?

• What is the plainest version of what I want?

Never leave candles unattended.