Protection for a Difficult Person

To stay yourself in the presence of someone who consistently drains you.

Before contact you cannot avoid: family events, shared care, work.

MoonMagicx Lunar Method™ phase: Last Quarter.

• A black or dark blue candle

• Black Tourmaline, Onyx or Yarrow

• A small mirror

• Salt

Decide in advance the three sentences you will not be drawn into arguing.

Candle in front, mirror facing away from you, crystal in your dominant hand, salt circle around the mirror.

Light the candle. Say: 'I go as myself, and I come back as myself.'

1. Say the person's role, not their name: 'the one who drains me'.

2. State your three non-negotiables out loud.

3. Hold the crystal and imagine a still, quiet space around your body — not a wall, a distance.

4. Place the mirror face-outward on your altar to reflect back what is not yours.

5. Carry the crystal to the encounter and keep the sentences short.

6. On return, wash your hands and face in cold water before speaking to anyone.

'What is yours stays yours.

I am not responsible for managing your feelings.

I leave as myself.'

Snuff the candle. Sweep the salt. Say: 'Returned.'

Do not debrief for hours; that keeps the encounter running. One short conversation, then something entirely unrelated.

Notice whether you need protection or an actual boundary spoken out loud. Usually both.

• What do I always end up explaining?

• What sentence would end that conversation cleanly?

• What is not mine to manage?

If a person is abusive or unsafe, ritual is not the tool. Contact a support service. Never leave candles unattended.