Self-Love Restoration Ritual

To rebuild the relationship with yourself as maintenance rather than reward.

After a period of overgiving, comparison, or being spoken to badly — including by yourself.

MoonMagicx Lunar Method™ phase: Waning Gibbous.

• A pink or white candle

• Rose petals or dried rose

• Rose Quartz or Mangano Calcite

• A mirror

• Warm water in a bowl

Take off jewellery and anything performative. Wash your face. Sit somewhere you will not be interrupted for twenty minutes.

Mirror propped in front of you, candle beside it, bowl of warm water with rose petals floating, crystal in your left hand.

Light the candle. Look at your own eyes for thirty seconds without commentary. If commentary comes, let it pass without arguing.

1. Dip your fingers in the rose water and touch your forehead, throat and centre of your chest.

2. At each point, say one true sentence about yourself — not aspirational, true.

3. Now say the harshest sentence you regularly say to yourself, out loud, once.

4. Then answer it, out loud, as you would answer a friend who said it about themselves.

5. Hold the crystal to your chest and breathe for ten slow breaths.

6. Write the answering sentence on paper and keep it where you dress.

'I am not a project.

I am allowed to be loved on ordinary days.

I speak to myself the way I would speak to someone I love.'

Snuff the candle. Empty the water outside or onto a plant. Say: 'Kept, not earned.'

Eat something warm. Avoid your phone for an hour. Repeat weekly for a full cycle — this one works through repetition.

Self-love work often exposes whose voice the harsh sentence originally belonged to. You are allowed to hand it back.

• Whose voice is my inner critic using?

• Where am I still proving?

• What would care look like today, not in general?

Mirror work can be intense. Stop if you feel dissociated and ground with cold water and something to eat.